When you have kids, you are signing up to be everything to that little human. In the beginning, you are going to be the one that they rely on for everything from changing them, to feeding them, to giving them comfort when they are scared, and so on. As they grow up, their needs might change, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t as intense. As a parent, it’s your job to ensure that they are growing up to become the very best version of themselves, and that’s not always an easy thing to do.
The mistake that a lot of parents make is thinking that they don’t have much of an influence in this, but this train of thought couldn’t be more wrong. In this article, we’re going to be taking a look at some of the things that you can do to aid your kids in becoming the very best that they can be. Keep reading down below if you would like to find out more
The first thing that we’re going to say is that you should be present as much as you can. There are lots of ways that you can be present for your kids, but the best way to do this is to show up. Even when things are hard, and even when you don’t understand some of the choices that they are making, you need to show up. You need to be there and you need to encourage them and you need to show them that no matter what you are always going to show up.
In everyday home life, being present might be something like helping them with their 12th-grade worksheets if they need it. It might be sitting down and listening to them tell you how their day was while you eat dinner. It doesn’t always have to be a big, grand gesture to show up, and it shouldn’t be really. When they are older, we promise you that they are going to remember the consistency of you showing up, even when it was tough, and they are going to be a strong, loving adult for it.
Sometimes in life, our kids make choices that we don’t fully understand. They make choices that we would not make ourselves, and they want to experience things that we would never want to experience, but you need to be supportive. You have to understand that your child is not you, and they do not have to be. They do not have to follow your wants, and they do not have to do what you want them to do, they just have to be happy. What we mean by this is when they go to school, they do not have to participate in the sport that you like for example. They can choose their own based on what is going to make them happy and you need to support this.
Letting your kids make their own choices and supporting them nonetheless is one of the best things that you can do for them. If it doesn’t work out then at least they made the choice themselves and they have learned from their decision. Your kids have the right to make their own choices, and you still need to be there when they do.
Open And Honest Communication
Communication is the key to any relationship, and the parent/child relationship is no different. You should be encouraging and initiating open and honest communication as much as you can. For your kids to be the best that they can be, they have got to be able, to tell the truth, and communicate their feelings, desires, their grievances and so much more. We know that this is going to lead to some uncomfortable conversations that you would rather not have, but that’s life and you just have to get past this for the sake of your kid. If you don’t, and you force your kid to keep these feelings inside, you’re going to create a child or adult who can’t communicate and is emotionally unavailable.
We understand that a lot of people have problems communicating what they are thinking and feeling, so if this is something you struggle with you might want to get some help. You can’t let your problems impact your child, so learning to do this should be at the top of your to-do list.
Teach Them Boundaries
Boundaries are important to life, and your kids need to be able to explore the boundaries safely with you. But, what a lot of parents don’t understand is that you can teach them boundaries without making them feel bad. There are going to be times with younger kids when they are pushing boundaries that you feel like losing it completely. You’re tired of saying the same thing over and over, and tired of the tantrums when they do not get their way. However, you have to remember that they are pushing boundaries, and they need you to be safe at that moment. When things feel their worst, that’s when you’re closest to the breakthrough that you need, so just wait it out and teach them the boundaries without yelling.
If you do this now, you will be able to effectively set boundaries later in life. Your kids need to know how to set boundaries as well as how to respect them. When you do this, you are setting them up well for life, so that they do not get taken advantage of by people who do not understand them.
Teach Them To Be Kind
One of the most important things that you can do is teach them to be kind. Kindness is important in life, and there are too many people in the world who are not kind right now. Sometimes it’s extremely difficult to maintain your kindness when you are faced with people who are not showing any, but you have to teach your kids the importance of doing so. You do not want to stoop to the level of others when there is no need to.
As well as this, you should teach them to be kind because it’s the right thing to do. You never know what is going on behind closed doors, and you never know when someone just needs a little bit of kindness in their lives. Being kind can go a long way without you even realizing it, so it’s one of the most essential things that you should teach your kids.
Work On Yourself Too
This is something that a lot of parents are not willing to do, but it will help massively if you are willing to work on yourself. There are more than likely things that you are going to need to do to learn and grow as a person, and you can do this with your child. If you want to teach them to be the best that they can be, then you are going to need to show them what it looks like to try and make positive changes. Show them that you are not just telling them to do something that you won’t practice yourself, but that you’re willing to put the effort in yourself so that you can both be the best versions.
Nobody Is Perfect
The final thing that we’re going to say is that nobody is perfect. There’s a difference between teaching your kids to be the best that they can be, and demanding perfection from them. One is good parenting, and one is an impossible task that will likely give your kids a lot of mental health issues, performance issues and so much more. You would not be happy if people expected perfection from you, and it’s not fair of you to demand the same from your child. We all mess up sometimes, we all get things wrong, and we make the wrong choices, but the important thing is that we are allowed to learn from them. Perfection does not exist and it is an unattainable goal, so if you’re going to help your kids become the best that they can be, you have got to understand that.
We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the things that you should be doing when it comes to aiding your kids to be the best that they can be. While it might not seem like something that you have to actively try, it is. You should always be trying to get the best out of your kids, helping them to become the best version of themselves all the time. The only thing that we do want to say here is that you have to accept them for whoever they are and accept that sometimes their best might look different on any given day. We wish you the very best of luck, and hope that you work hard to help your kids become the best that they can be!