Confidence Building Tips for Mature Dating

If you’re over 50 and just getting back into dating, it may feel like an entirely different world if you haven’t been out there for a while. These days many couples meet online, and if dating wasn’t hard enough on its own, navigating this new world of technology plus romance may seem a little daunting. The most important quality in dating – both online and in person – is confidence, and that may be hard to fake if you’re feeling a little unsure about being back out there. Here are a few tips to help develop confidence in this new world of dating.
Refresh Yourself
If it’s been a while since you’ve purchased a new outfit, had a haircut, or tried new cosmetics, why not treat yourself? A manicure and pedicure can help you feel your best as well. There’s no need to become someone you’re not – at this age you’re probably pretty settled into who you are and what fashion choices you like. Just enhance and showcase those things. Once you’ve done so, ask a friend to take some photos of you if you’re trying online dating. Typically photos where you’re smiling and look natural and relaxed tend to get the best attention. Try to post an accurate photo of your best self.
Make a List
Take some time to consider the qualities you’re looking for in a companion. Keep in mind that many people turn to online dating for companionship and may not necessarily be looking for a spouse. Still, you’ve had some time to figure out what you prefer and what you’re willing to put up with in a special someone, so think those things through and make a list. It’s a great exercise for mature and single dating. As you’re meeting people both online and in-person, keep those qualities in mind. Don’t waste your time on anyone who doesn’t meet them. If you know what you want, you can more confidently move forward or part ways.

Choose Comfortable Settings
Dating isn’t what it used to be – there’s no need for an extravagant first date. A casual environment that spurs intelligent conversation is excellent. A casual conversation over coffee puts no pressure on either of you but allows space to see if there’s chemistry. Choose a few key questions to ask beforehand, but leave space for your companion to contribute and drive the conversation as well.

If you’re nervous on your first couple of dates that’s normal, but just try to relax and be yourself. After you’ve refreshed yourself, made a list, and chosen to stay focused while enjoying the other person’s company, the date should go well. If not there are more dates to be found, so don’t give up and enjoy building your confidence in the process. You’re bound to meet someone that you connect with and you’ll be asking yourself why you didn’t give this online dating thing a shot earlier.

About the Author: Andrea is doing research on dating and discovered some important tips that will help build your confidence.