Surviving Divorce – Three Important Questions, Answered!
The end of a marriage can be a difficult time for both parties involved. However, sometimes divorce is truly the best option. Of course, the process of getting divorced can be a complicated one, and it can bring up many questions that need to be resolved. Fortunately, you can read about some of the most important ones, and their answers, below.
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Have you considered mediation?
You may think that the best way to protect yourself during a divorce is to make sure you have an aggressive attorney on your side. After all, you will want them to be able to fight for every penny that you are owed, right?
Well, sure, sometimes you need someone that will fight your corner, but this isn’t a given. Indeed, not all divorces end up with the couple involved at each other’s throats. Therefore, before you even consider engaging an attorney it makes sense to consider using mediation.
Mediation is when you have one representative that acts for you both and aims to negotiate a settlement that each party is happy with. The great thing about choosing meditation is that it can be a great deal faster than fighting things out with attorneys. It can also be less emotionally draining as well.
What to do if your ex has disappeared?
A common occurrence in the breakdown of a marriage is that one partner abandons the other and then disappears. The abandoner often does this so they are not held to account for their actions, and so they escape having to pay for things like alimony and child support for the partner and family they have left behind.
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The good news is that even if you do find yourself in a situation where your ex has gone AWOL, it is possible to track them down and hold them accountable for the responsibilities they continue to have after the divorce.
Indeed, using an address search is one of the best ways of doing this. The reason being that it will allow you to find out the official address of a person that owes you money so they can be pursued legally for the debt they owe you.
Should you ask friends and family for support?
For many of us, our first port of call in a storm is our close friends and family. Indeed, it is often to these close personal relationships that we look for support and constellation in situations such as divorce.
However, it is worth considering using the services of a professional counselor for several reasons. The first is that no matter how good your friends are they will at some point get fatigued when emotionally supporting you. You can even strain good relationships this way, especially as divorces tend to drag on.
Also, remember that a professional counselor or therapist will have a whole wealth of resources to help you cope with both the emotional and practical issues that come up due to your divorce. Something that can help you get back on your feet as quickly as possible.
There is help out there so get all you can.
This was really informative to read. It is important to have a support system and talking to a therapist is a great idea.
One of life’s toughest times and so important to have the supports that suits you.
Whew! A very hard and uncomfortable subject. Thanks for sharing!
I see many people on our local FB group asking for divorce attorneys or mediators. It seems especially fraught when children are involved, and custody issues are potentially a sticking point.
Good tips. I have been divorced for over 8 years now. I definitely agree with asking family and friends for emotional support during a time like that.
My brother went through this. I don’t know what he would have done without the love and support of our parents and larger family.
Good advice. My ex just up and left and I took it pretty hard because he put me in a really bad spot where I had to clean up his messes he created.
My parents divorced in the late 70’s. A therapist sounds much better than their methods of coping: his was drinking too much and hers was playing an old 45 of Love Hurts over and over, lol.